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Weekly Eagle News – Head of Schools
Second semester has launched, and students are engaged once again in learning. Classrooms are brimming with energy and excitement.
Upper school students had some unique academic experiences during our second InterSession this past week. InterSession was, on all accounts, another huge success. Thanks to our faculty and members of our greater community for facilitating these experiences for our students.
As our daughter was growing up, Jan and I spent a lot of time thinking through what we could do to be the best possible parents for her. Thank you, our parents, for all you do in this most important responsibility in life. I wanted to pass on these resolutions for becoming a more grateful parent; I hope you will be encouraged. Best wishes in the new year.
By Practicing Psychologist, Madeline Levine
- I will not do for my child what he can do for himself. This kills motivation and the ability to innovate. Both are missing from too many young people in today's workforce.
- I will not do for my child what she can almost do for herself. At one time your child could almost walk. Now she can walk. Enough said.
- I will love the child in front of me. Appreciate and be thankful for your child's unique gifts. Children are talented in a multitude of different ways. See your child's particular talents clearly.
- I will not push my child to be perfect. Beside genetics, perfectionism is the strongest predictor of clinical depression. Life is full of mistakes, Imperfect days, and human failings. Kids need to learn how to cope with these inevitabilities. They (and you) need to be able to feel happiness and gratitude in the face of imperfection.
- I will honor the importance of PDF (Playtime, Downtime, and Family Time). Don't overschedule. Kids need time to play, daydream, and just hang out. It's in these precious "between" times that crucial development tasks are accomplished.
- I will make sure my child gets a full night's steep. Kids need between nine and eleven hours a night. Sleep deprivation impairs concentration, memory, and the ability to accurately read emotional cues. It makes kids crabby and compromises their ability to learn.
- I will remember that I am a parent, not a CEO. Results are down the line, not at the end of the quarter. This means the occasional "B" or "C will not break your child’s future prospects. Stop catastrophizing. You won’t see the final fruits of your parenting until your child is grown and gone.
- I will value my own (adult) life. Being a happy, fulfilled, and yes, grateful adult makes you a better parent. It's one of the best gifts you can give your child. It makes adulthood look like something worth striving for.
- I will not confuse my needs with my child's needs. This is the most toxic manifestation of overparenting. Get a hobby or a therapist instead.
- I will remember the success trajectory is a struggle…not a straight line. Few of us become successful by simply putting one foot in front of the other. Most of us encounter a multitude of twists, turns, direction changes, and stops on the way to our goals.
Please invite friends and family to explore Redlands Christian Schools
Open House for Grades 6-12, January 22, 6 PM
Open House for Preschool-Grade 5, January 29, 6 PM
Parent Tip: Click on this LINK for an additional parenting tip on Parenting Habits to Develop
Join us in praying this week for our 222 middle school students.
In His Grip,
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